I think a few people are a little confused as to why I want to help PK's. I think they assume it just comes out of negativity but it really doesn't.
Let me explain.
Pastor's kids are special, I think we all know that. They have a character, experience, life and calling on their life that no other person has. They have a legacy and a heritage to fulfill. Many Pastor's Kids end up in the ministry despite the fact that (as my youth pastor put so nicely) they have enough hurt and anger that if it was a atomic bomb it could destroy the whole of Manhattan.
We have been called be God to work in the ministry yet part of us just so desperately never wants to set foot into a church again. Like Jonah we want to run far away from the calling of God because we have seen the hurt and the pain that being in the ministry can cause. Even if the church you grew up in was 'the best church possible' and even if they were 'amazing to you' a Pastor's child will more likely than not have hurts even though nothing 'extremely bad' ever happened to them.
It's just that most PK's can probably remember those nights as a kid where there Dad was at church meetings or praying with other people instead of being at home with them. They can remember those christmas's which were involved around church instead of family. They remember all the holidays that were cut short cause there was a death in the church or a wedding to attend. This does not mean that our Dad's were a bad parents or that the church was bad. The fact is that our Father's loved us and did the best for us but sometimes their job (I'm trying desperatly not to say that it was more important cause its not like that at all, but I don't know how else to put it) was important from a eternal aspect. Because of these memories there are a lot of hurts. It's nothing personal, its just what happens when you belong to a ministry.
So I basically want to help Pastor's Kids step into the position of ministry they have been called to in the best way possible. I want to help them deal with those hurts and be able to make decisions which would mean that as they become leaders and pastors and missionaries they can do it in a way which is God honoring. That they can rwach their full potential. They have such a heritage of wealth, wisdom and leadership. It's in the genes.
Hi Chloe,
ReplyDeleteI'm thinking there is a better way to put this...
"The fact is that our Father's loved us and did the best for us but sometimes their job (I'm trying desperatly not to say that it was more important cause its not like that at all, but I don't know how else to put it) was important from a eternal aspect."
Perhaps something like,
Certainly our Fathers loved us. I don't want to diminish that love. Neither do I want to diminish the difficult task of ministering to the church. But the sad truth is our Fathers were just as imperfect and flawed as the rest us, and priorities are easy things to disorder. Who can say which was more important from an eternal perspective? Who can say if something could have been done to lessen the burden of the pastorate so family did not have to suffer their absence? Who can say if our bitterness is right or wrong: justified or guilty for feeling? - Only our perfect Father. Still, hurt remains.